# Coaching for Life

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## Posts

- [When Friends Don't Call](https://lindathurwanger.com/when-friends-dont-call/): Who Is In Control of Your Happiness? It’s Not Them… It’s You! One of the radio stations I listen to has a segment where people can call in and talk...
- [Complaining, Whining & Griping... Oh My!](https://lindathurwanger.com/complaining-whining-griping-oh-my/): I am surrounded by people at work who seem to constantly gossip and/or complain.   If I don’t participate in it, I feel like an outsider.  When I do participate in it,...
- [Are You A Gossiper?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-a-gossiper/): I am surrounded by people at work who seem to constantly gossip and/or complain. If I don’t participate in it, I feel like an outsider. When I do participate in...
- [Dating Again](https://lindathurwanger.com/dating-again-when-relationship-ends/): When a long-term romantic relationship ends, getting into another relationship is not typically, something we are remotely interested in doing right away.  Depending on how or why the relationship ended,...
- [Attack of the Monkey Mind](https://lindathurwanger.com/attack-of-the-monkey-mind/): My Monkey Mind attacked me this morning. I woke up about an hour before my alarm was set to go off.  I lay there with the intention of going back...
- [Are You Settling for Crumbs in Your Relationships?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-settling-for-crumbs-in-your-relationships/): Are you in a relationship that leaves you hungry for affection, attention, genuine appreciation, emotional support, companionship or love? If you are settling for crumbs in your relationship, it is probably not the...
- [R U SETTLING for less in a LOVE RELATIONSHIP?](https://lindathurwanger.com/r-u-settling-for-less-in-a-love-relationship/): Are you in a romantic relationship in which you are doing all or most of the work to keep the relationship alive?  Does his demeaning behavior toward you have you...
- [](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-do-you-wish-you-could-change/): We Can’t Change The Past Most people have something in their past that they wish they could change.  Is there something in their life that you wish you had done...
- [Celebrate Being You!](https://lindathurwanger.com/celebrate-being-you/):   It’s obvious, we are each unique, individual beings.  No two people behave, think or look exactly the same.  Twins or other multiple birth siblings may come close to being identical, but even...
- [Love and Forgiveness](https://lindathurwanger.com/love-and-forgiveness/): “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not...
- [Get Back in The Game](https://lindathurwanger.com/get-back-in-the-game/)
- [We Don't Always Need to Know Why](https://lindathurwanger.com/we-dont-always-need-to-know-why/): It is my belief that we don’t always need to know why we behave the way we do or why we make choices we make in life, in order to...
- [Beauty, the Light Within](https://lindathurwanger.com/beauty-the-light-within/):   Recently, I surveyed women to learn what they really think about their own beauty.  I wanted to know how they felt about their own inner and outer beauty as...
- [Are You the Architect of Your Own Life?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-the-architect-of-your-own-life/):   What is an architect? According to Wikipedia an architect is a person trained in the planning, design and oversight of the construction of buildings.   The word is derived from the...
- [How to Change Someone Else](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-to-change-someone-else/): Who in your life, needs to be changed?  Your mom, your dad, spouse, sibling, boss or co-worker?  It doesn’t matter, this process is guaranteed* to work on almost everyone!    Is your mom too...
- [What are You Pretending Not to Know?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-are-you-pretending-not-to-know/): Do you pretend that your  relationship with your partner is in good shape, but underneath it all, you know something isn’t quite right?   If you are less than happy in...
- [Take this job and...](https://lindathurwanger.com/take-this-job-and/): Do you hate your job?   Before you yell “man/woman overboard!” and jump off the starboard bow,  find out what you do and do not want in your next job.  It will save...
- [Money](https://lindathurwanger.com/money/): I asked  someone what his biggest challenge is right now?  What keeps him awake at night?  His answer:  Money. In the current economic times, I think many people would say that money is the...
- [New Management Blues](https://lindathurwanger.com/new-management-blues/): So there you are settled comfortably in your work routine and along comes the inevitable winds of change.  Your current manager leaves the company or gets promoted and suddenly a...
- [How to Stop Working for the Weekend](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-to-stop-working-for-the-weekend/): This week, I overheard someone say, “I’m great!  It’s Wednesday!  I’m half-way through the week!”   It’s a common phrase, that we have all used.   It’s tied in popularity and overuse with “Thank...
- [Transformations](https://lindathurwanger.com/transformations/): Transformation does not have to take a long time.  Change can actually happen very quickly.  Often, it is simply a matter of changing our perspective.  Consider how decorative blown glass...
- [Caring vs Care-taking](https://lindathurwanger.com/caring-vs-care-taking/): Are you a caring person or a care-taker? Is there a difference?   Yes!  There is a big difference!  When we care about another person, we experience feelings of empathy and...
- [Self-forgiveness](https://lindathurwanger.com/self-forgiveness/): Why do many of us find it so difficult to forgive ourselves?   If we’re not “on our game” one day and we don’t live up to our own high expectations for ourselves,...
- [Healing the Gulf](https://lindathurwanger.com/healing-the-gulf/): At noon today, wherever you are, please take a moment, quiet your mind and ask your Creator to stop the oil spill in the Gulf and heal the earth. Even...
- [Blessings in the Blunders](https://lindathurwanger.com/blessings-in-the-blunders/): It seems to me, that many of us go through our lives afraid of making a mistake.  From my experience, my wisdom and strength have grown out of  my errors.  When I...
- [Finding Rainbows](https://lindathurwanger.com/finding-rainbows/): I would like to share a poem by Collin McCarty. Enjoy! Linda If We Don’t Take Chances, then We’ll Never Find the Rainbows If we don’t ever take chances, we...
- [Look for the good](https://lindathurwanger.com/look-for-the-good/): Most of us are adept at pointing out the flaws in something whether those flaws are in ourselves, in our surroundings or in a particular situation.  Today, when you catch...
- [Attract Abundance](https://lindathurwanger.com/attract-abundance/): Do your thoughts bring abundance or scarcity to your life?  If you’re like most of us, given a choice, you would choose abundance.  Yet many of us spend a majority of our time thinking ...
- [Parenting by example](https://lindathurwanger.com/parenting-by-example/): Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms everywhere!  I hope you had the opportunity to spend some time with your child/children today either in person or by telephone.  There is no role...
- [The Grief No One Sends a Card For](https://lindathurwanger.com/the-grief-no-one-sends-a-card-for/): No one brings a casserole when a friendship quietly fades. No one checks in the week your last child moves out, even though the house sounds different now. No one marks the end of a job that used to feel like part of who you are. We save the word grief for the losses everyone can see. A death. A diagnosis. A divorce that made it all the way to paperwork. But so many of the endings that reshape a woman’s life arrive without any ceremony at all. They come with silence. And silence has a way of convincing you that...
- [The Four Ways Women Answer "What Now?"](https://lindathurwanger.com/the-four-ways-women-answer-what-now/): The Four Ways Women Answer “What Now?” There’s a moment that shows up in almost every transition, no matter what caused it. A divorce. A job that ended before you were ready for it to end. An empty house. A loss you didn’t see coming. Or nothing dramatic at all — just an ordinary day where you looked up from your life and thought, quietly, *what now?* That question isn’t a sign something has gone wrong. It’s a sign something has shifted, and you’re paying attention. What surprises most of my clients isn’t that they’re asking the question. It’s how differently...
- [Why "Starting Over" is the Wrong Lens for Midlife Transitions](https://lindathurwanger.com/why-starting-over-is-the-wrong-lens-for-midlife-transitions/): One of the most damaging narratives women carry into midlife transitions is this: “If I change now, I’m starting over.” That belief keeps many capable, experienced women stuck in roles, identities, and relationships that no longer fit. Not because they lack options, but because “starting over” feels exhausting, risky, and far too costly. You Are Repositioning From Experience But most midlife transitions are not actually about starting over. They are about repositioning from experience. For professional women, this often follows a quieter kind of shift. Sometimes it begins with quiet firing. Influence changes. Access narrows. Positioning shifts without clear acknowledgment. Sometimes...
- [Quiet Cracking:  When Capable Women Break Silently](https://lindathurwanger.com/quiet-cracking-when-capable-women-break-silently/): There’s another experience I’m hearing about more often than quiet firing. It doesn’t show up in performance reviews. It doesn’t trigger concern from colleagues. And it often goes unnoticed even by close friends. I call it quiet cracking. Quiet Cracking Quiet cracking happens when a woman is still performing, but internally, something is fracturing. You’re doing what’s expected. You’re meeting deadlines. You’re holding things together. But inside, the questions are getting louder: Quiet cracking isn’t burnout in the traditional sense. It’s what happens when your outer life keeps moving forward, but your inner life has outgrown the structure holding it. Career...
- [Quiet Firing Isn't About Your Performance. It's About Your Position in the Story.](https://lindathurwanger.com/quiet-firing-isnt-about-your-performance-its-about-your-position-in-the-story/): In executive coaching, I see it constantly: brilliant leaders trying to solve a ‘Positioning’ problem with a ‘Performance’ solution. If you are being quiet-fired, working harder won’t save you because the problem isn’t your output. It’s that the narrative of the organization has shifted, and you’re being written out of the next chapter. There’s a particular kind of professional pain that doesn’t come with a termination letter. You’re still employed. Your title hasn’t changed. Your calendar is still full. And yet something feels off. Projects you used to lead are quietly reassigned. Decisions happen without you in the room. Your voice...
- [Let's Talk About Quiet Firing](https://lindathurwanger.com/lets-talk-about-quiet-firing/): If you’ve never heard of quiet firing, count yourself lucky. It’s when a company doesn’t officially fire an employee… they just slowly make their work life unbearable. Responsibilities are taken away. Growth opportunities disappear. Communication dries up. Praise is replaced with silence—or worse, criticism. Eventually, the employee feels they have no choice but to quit. It’s subtle. It’s strategic. And it’s cowardly. I’ve experienced it myself. And I’ve coached clients through the emotional and professional fallout that follows. Here’s the truth: Quiet firing says more about a company’s leadership than it does about the employee. It’s a tactic that avoids honest...
- [Make Time for What Matters Most: A Personal Reflection](https://lindathurwanger.com/make-time-for-what-matters-most-a-personal-reflection/): Sometimes, life sends us reminders that are as gentle as a whisper—or as jarring as a thunderclap. Last week, I lost a dear friend unexpectedly. She was my age, vibrant, active, and deeply loved by her family and friends. Married to her best friend for 50 years, she filled her days with laughter, movement, and connection. Her sudden passing from a massive stroke left all of us stunned, and I found myself reflecting on the moments I let slip by—the dinner plans I meant to make, the calls I postponed, the simple joys I assumed could wait for another time. Why...
- [Overcoming Self-Doubt](https://lindathurwanger.com/overcoming-self-doubt/): In 2013, Anne Hathaway was awarded a Golden Globe for her role in the movie version of Les Misérables. As I watched her accept her award, I was touched by the authenticity and genuine humility in Anne Hathaway’s acceptance speech. I was particularly struck by her comment “…thank you for this lovely, blunt object that I will forevermore use as a weapon against self-doubt…”   I thought to myself, wow, even beautiful, accomplished actresses like Anne Hathaway struggle with moments of self-doubt! Obviously, she did not let self-doubt stop her, but the fact that she mentioned it tells me self-doubt has played...
- [Do It All Myself Syndrome](https://lindathurwanger.com/do-it-all-myself-syndrome/): Do you have a difficult time delegating tasks to others? Do you assign tasks, but then take them back and do them yourself because you know it will be done “right”? When there is a project to be completed and you are working with a group, do you take on more than your fair share of the workload? These are all symptoms of the “Do It All Myself” Syndrome. It Is Destructive Not only is the “Do It All Myself” Syndrome a straight and fast path to burnout for yourself, it robs others of the opportunity to grow and develop healthy...
- [You Might Be In Survival Mode](https://lindathurwanger.com/you-might-be-in-survival-mode/): Navigating life’s relentless demands can sometimes push us into a state where merely getting through the day feels like an uphill battle. This condition, often termed “survival mode,” is our body’s instinctual reaction to prolonged stress, keeping us in a heightened state of alertness. While this response is designed to protect us during immediate threats, remaining in this mode for extended periods can be detrimental to our well-being. Recognizing the Signs of Survival Mode Understanding when you’re entrenched in survival mode is crucial. Key indicators include: The Toll of Prolonged Survival Mode Remaining in this heightened state can have profound effects:...
- [Choose The Best Of The Worst Options](https://lindathurwanger.com/choosing-the-best-of-the-worst-options/): You have probably heard it said that we always have a choice in whatever we face in life. Last year, a colleague and friend, remarked that sometimes, we have to take the best, worst choice. His comment caused me to think about the times in my life when I made the best, worst choice. I decided to share one of my experiences with you. My Best, Worst Choice About 34 years ago, in a previous marriage, I was faced with just such bad options. The marriage was over. We tried counseling, but it was too little, too late. My husband at...
- [Does Your Relationship Feel Like Life Without Parole?](https://lindathurwanger.com/does-your-marriage-feel-like-life-without-parole/): Does your marriage or long-term relationship feel like a "life without parole" prison sentence?  Does your relationship lack a heart and soul connection?
- [5 Ways to Find Serenity Now](https://lindathurwanger.com/5-ways-to-find-serenity-now/): Do you typically sail along through your days, feeling content and able to take life’s challenges in stride, but all it takes is a mopey or disgruntled attitude from your life partner and you find yourself in a downward spiral? Does this happen to you when your boss, your parent, or child is in a less than pleasant mood? Maybe you are caring for an aging parent or someone with a chronic illness and often the mood at home is strained or unhappy. You may find yourself wishing the other person would just get over it or at least put on...
- [What Is Draining Your Energy?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-is-draining-your-energy/): When was the last time you really paid attention to how you spend your time?   Are you spending your time with people and on activities that energize you, or drain you?  If your honest answer is that you spend  too much time with people or doing activities that drain your energy, it’s time to make some adjustments in your life.    Taking steps to eliminate or reduce energy drains from your life is a step toward taking good care of yourself.  It isn’t as selfish as it might appear at first.  Taking care of yourself will not only benefit you, but...
- ["Broken Home" Is A Misnomer](https://lindathurwanger.com/broken-home-is-a-misnomer/): The term “broken home” is often used to describe a divorce or the ending of a long-term relationship especially when children are involved. What many people don’t understand, is that a broken home can just as easily be used to describe an intact marriage or live-in situation where arguing and fighting are a common occurrence. Some children are subjected almost daily to fighting and yelling because they have parents who are unable to get along with each other. In my mind, in that situation, children are living in a broken home. Divorce or separation, although painful, could actually be a step...
- [Feelings Are Like Rumble Strips](https://lindathurwanger.com/feelings-are-like-rumble-strips/): If you have driven a car, you are probably familiar with rumble strips.  Rumble strips are a safety feature.  They are the raised areas on the outside edges of a road or highway. Rumble strips can also be found in the center line on a two-way street.  The purpose of rumble strips is to produce a noise that alerts the driver that they are in danger of running off the road, or heading into on-coming traffic. Last Fall, my husband, Jerry and I took a scenic drive in the north Georgia mountains.  As Jerry was driving, I was busy looking out...
- [Break Free of Imposter Syndrome](https://lindathurwanger.com/overcoming-imposter-syndrome/): What is Imposter Syndrome and how can you break free of the hold it has on you? Imposter syndrome is a silent saboteur that robs many talented individuals of the recognition and fulfillment they deserve. It has detrimental effects on countless individuals. But here’s the good news: with the right guidance and support, you can break free from its grip and unleash your true potential like never before. Often the root cause of Imposter Syndrome is not easily uncovered, but here’s more good news… you don’t have to understand why you feel the way you do about yourself to overcome Imposter...
- [Overcome Imposter Syndrome](https://lindathurwanger.com/overcome-imposter-syndrome/): In my journey as an executive life coach, I’ve witnessed firsthand the silent struggle many people face: imposter syndrome. This pervasive feeling of not being good enough, can cripple the most talented individuals, holding them back from reaching their full potential. Imposter syndrome does not discriminate; it affects people at all levels, from artists and entrepreneurs to seasoned executives and people from every walk of life. It’s a thief of joy and a barrier to personal and professional growth. But here’s the truth: overcoming it is not just possible; it’s within your reach. A Reflection of Your Success Do you know...
- [Have You Been In Vacation Mode?](https://lindathurwanger.com/have-you-been-in-vacation-mode/): Here, in the USA, the season of autumn begins on September 23, 2023. As we approach the end of summer vacations and the first nine months of 2023, I find myself contemplating what I have accomplished in 2023. I am also thinking about what I want to create in my business by the end of 2023. Many of us, including me, have been in vacation mode over the summer months. Summertime can inspire us to relax and enjoy time spent with family and friends. Depending on the type of business, you may have noticed that some of your clients and customers...
- [How To Get Over Your Ex](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-to-get-over-your-ex/): One of the most frequently asked questions that I hear from people who are going through a breakup or divorce, is “How do I get over my ex? He/she was the love of my life. I am devastated, lonely and can’t seem to move on.” The breakup of a long-term relationship or marriage can be extremely painful. If you are the one who initiated the breakup, you have most likely done most of your grieving before you broke the news to your partner. If, on the other hand, you were blindsided by your partner’s announcement that they wanted out of the...
- [Overcome Anxiety With Resilience](https://lindathurwanger.com/overcome-anxiety-with-resilience/): When we are focused on an issue and we are in a state of anxiety and worry, it is difficult if not impossible to come up with good solutions. Have you ever considered that most, if not all, of the solutions to your problems came about when you were in a calm and peaceful state of mind? Have you ever experienced a problem in your life and the harder you tried to come up with a solution, the more elusive the solution became? Stress, anxiety and worried thinking are like holding a beach ball underwater. When we are in an anxious...
- [STOP SETTLING for Less in Your Career!](https://lindathurwanger.com/stop-settling-for-less-in-your-career/): A few days ago, I was out running errands and bumped into a woman I know that I hadn’t seen in awhile. We chatted for a few minutes and the conversation turned to her work.  She told me that although she likes certain aspects of her job, she would leave in a heartbeat if she could find something else.  Apparently, her current job pays much less than she would like to be earning.  I asked her what she would like to do and she said “I would like to go back to doing the kind of work I used to do.”...
- [The Divorce Was Not My Fault](https://lindathurwanger.com/the-divorce-was-not-my-fault/): I was married to a man who was physically abusive and refused to control his temper.  On top of that, he drank too much, cheated on me and loved to criticize me. It was easy for me to point a finger and say the divorce was all his fault, but that wasn’t the truth. Was I responsible for his abusive behavior or the addictions?  Of course not!  However, I am the one who ignored the warning signs while we were dating, and I am the one who made the choice to keep giving him “one more chance”.  I was the one...
- [How to Start Dating Again](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-to-start-dating-again/): Dating after divorce or break-up of a long-term relationship, can be an intimidating experience, but, it doesn’t have to be. It’s only scary if you jump in the deep end of the dating pool without first learning how to swim. You have experienced the loss of your “happily-ever-after” dream for your marriage and that is enough to put anyone off-balance. Even if you were the one who initiated the divorce, it is still the end of something you thought would last forever and your world has been turned inside out. The Critical Voices While it is perfectly normal to grieve the...
- [Divorce is NOT the End of Your Story](https://lindathurwanger.com/divorce-is-not-the-end-of-your-story/): Divorce is one of the most painful life events that a person can experience.  It is as if a rug was pulled out from under you and your world is turned upside down.  To say it is a life-changing event, is an understatement.  At least that was my experience.  Even though I initiated the divorce from my children’s dad, it did not lessen the shock of what life would be like as a divorced, single parent.  My dreams of a happily-ever-after life with my husband were shattered and there was no going back.  Wasted Days and Wasted Nights I wasted a...
- [Your Thoughts Are A Paintbrush](https://lindathurwanger.com/your-thoughts-are-a-paintbrush/): Thoughts are like a paintbrush.  The artist uses a paintbrush to create his or her version of what is seen with the eye. This is exactly how thought works. We use our thoughts to make sense out of what is going on around us.   Too often we make the mistake of believing that a thought is like a camera that captures our life experiences.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  We get ourselves into trouble, when we believe that our thoughts are providing accurate feedback about what is going on around us.  How Thought Works Have you ever experienced...
- [We Live In Separate Realities](https://lindathurwanger.com/we-live-in-separate-realities/): Why is it that some people look out at the world and feel anxious, angry or depressed, while others look at the same world and feel secure, at peace, and hopeful?  It happens because we each live in our own separate  reality.  We can look at the same situation, but experience it differently than the person sitting next to us.   It is quite common to hear one person say that a rainy day makes them feel sad and unmotivated. At the same time, it is not unusual to hear someone else say that a rainy day quiets them down and brings...
- [Turn Off The Thought Bubble Machine](https://lindathurwanger.com/turn-off-the-thought-bubble-machine/): Do you remember when you were a kid, how much fun it was to chase bubbles and pop them?  I would run after the bubbles, laughing and giggling as I tried to catch them in my hands or pop them with my finger.  I have watched my children do the same thing. In recent years, it’s been fun to watch my grandchildren laugh as they chased the bubbles that were coming from an automatic bubble blower.  So many bubbles that it was impossible to catch them all.   Our troublesome thoughts are like the bubbles made by an automatic bubble machine.  Thousands...
- [Is Your Thinking Off Track?](https://lindathurwanger.com/is-your-thinking-off-track/): How can you tell if your thinking is off track? Is there a warning signal that you get that tells you to stop before you do or say something that you will later regret? The answer is YES! That something is like an inner GPS that warns you when you have made a wrong turn. The “it” that I am referring to, is your feelings/emotions. The good news is we all have feelings/emotions! The bad news is that most of us misinterpret what our feelings are trying to tell us. We have it backwards… Most of us have it backwards. We...
- [How To Stop Insecure Feelings That Sabotage Your Relationship](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-insecure-feelings-destroy-relationships/): Feelings of insecurity are responsible for the destruction of many relationships. When we feel insecure, we tend to look outside ourselves for the reason why we feel the way we feel. Many people with insecure feelings, believe that the other person is the reason for their unhappiness. This leads them to think that the other person needs to change in order for them to feel secure in the relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth. Jennifer and Tom Tom and Jennifer have been together for over 12 years. They have two children ages 16 and 6. The older child is...
- [My Husband Makes Me Feel Invisible](https://lindathurwanger.com/my-husband-makes-me-feel-invisible/): Does your husband or significant other make you feel invisible? Feeling unimportant or insignificant within a marriage, is more common than you might think. I have definitely felt as if I was invisible. I am instantly saddened and my heart aches whenever I hear this or similar comments from the women I coach.  When someone as significant as our spouse ignores us or makes disparaging remarks to us, it can lead to feeling as if we are insignificant, unworthy or invisible.   If you are struggling with this issue, you might find this article helpful. However, please note that this article...
- [Political Divide = Relationship Divide?](https://lindathurwanger.com/love-without-conditions/): I generally enjoy reading Facebook posts from my friends and family members.  These are people that I really care about. Social media sites, help me keep up with what is going on in their busy lives, laugh at silly memes or share a funny video. And let’s not forget the cute animal photos. Unfortunately, over the past year or so, social media has become much less enjoyable for me. Between the posts about the protests, riots, political unrest and COVID-19, I am tempted to freeze all my social media accounts. If those sites did not also provide me a link to...
- [Hostile, Critical People, Oh My!](https://lindathurwanger.com/hostile-critical-people-oh-my/): Maybe I am wrong, but it seems that the Coronavirus Pandemic has brought out the worst in some people.  Tolerance appears to be at an all-time low. If you post a funny meme on social media, about the pandemic, you risk being publicly blasted in writing, by someone who takes it seriously and finds it offensive.   I feel sorry for those people who are compelled to criticize others. They are alienating the people they criticize and possibly those who read their comments.  If there was a friendship or family tie, the insensitive comment has likely damaged it.  If the relationship was...
- [Letting go of the past](https://lindathurwanger.com/letting-go-of-the-past/): Reliving the Past is not helpful Letting go of the past is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself.  When we hold on to past mistakes or hurts, we keep ourselves stuck in a never ending vortex of rigid thoughts.  We re-live the event over and over and over again.  We think about what we should have said, what they should have done, how unfair it was, etc… I have yet to meet one single person who felt better about himself because he dwelled on a past issue.    Instead, people who ruminate over past issues tend to...
- [Don't Give Your Power Away](https://lindathurwanger.com/dont-give-your-power-away/): Last week, I placed a drink order at a fast food restaurant drive-through.  When I got up to the window to pay for my order, a woman in her late teens or early twenties, took my payment. I’ll call her Miss Drive Through Window or DTW for short.  As I waited for the car in front of me to move, out of politeness, I asked how she was doing. I was not prepared for the response I got from her. When other people upset you, you have given your power away. DTW said, “I was doing okay, but now I’m not! ...
- [Where Are You On The Ladder of Selves?](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-our-mood-effects-our-relationships/): The “ladder of selves” was a concept of British philosopher, Colin Wilson.  It is an excellent metaphor for how our mood effects our relationships with others and how we experience life. The “ladder” is a quick way to take our emotional pulse. At the bottom of the ladder is our base self. At that level, we go through life in an unconscious and reactive manner. It’s a superficial, self-absorbed way of being in the world. As we move up the ladder, we become less unconscious, but we are still in a reactive state. We automatically react to the things that others...
- [Tragedy Does Not Define Us](https://lindathurwanger.com/tragedy-does-not-define-us/): I sat down at my computer this afternoon to write an article for my Blog. I knew this date was approaching, but it didn’t fully hit me, until I looked at my computer screen and saw the date spelled out as Tuesday, September 17. That’s when I felt the knot in my chest. The date, September 17th, doesn’t mean much to most people unless it happens to be their birthday, a close friend or relative’s birthday, wedding anniversary, or anniversary of some other important life event. For two of my siblings and me, it is the date that we lost half...
- [What Can You Do If You Are In An Abusive Relationship?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-can-you-do-if-you-are-in-an-abusive-relationship/): Does your spouse treat you with indifference or worse?  Do you feel invisible?  Have you been asking yourself whether you should stay or go?  Do you wonder if you have done enough to make the relationship better?  These are just a few of the questions that keep us stuck in unfulfilling, unhappy and abusive relationships.  Maybe you have asked yourself some of these same questions. You may think that any kind of abuse is a clear-cut reason to leave, and there should be no question.  Unfortunately, I know of many women and men who stay in relationships in which they are...
- [A Story About Becoming Yourself](https://lindathurwanger.com/a-story-about-becoming-yourself-make-a-change-in-your-life/): Do you have a desire to make a change in your life or follow a dream, but for whatever reason, you feel obliged to stay on your current path?  If so, this story is for you. No one knows exactly how it happened, but somehow, an eagle’s egg got mixed in with several turtle eggs in the nest of a Painted Turtle, on the Columbia Plateau.  The eagle egg was almost three times the size of the other eggs in the nest, and although the turtle parents noticed the difference, they didn’t give it much thought. If the Creator placed the...
- [When Helping is Harmful](https://lindathurwanger.com/to-much-help-can-be-harmfu/): I believe we are all here to help each other.  Helping others is admirable, but there is a tipping point.  If we help too much, it can be harmful to others. Consider adult friends, Suzanne and Debbie.   The women met several years ago. Suzanne felt sorry for Debbie, and took her under her wing. Over the years, Debbie has grown increasingly more dependent on her friend.   Debbie has come to rely on Suzanne to rescue her whenever she gets into a jam.  At social gatherings, Suzanne pays for Debbie’s drinks and meals. When Debbie gets in trouble, Suzanne cleans...
- [Tuning Out](https://lindathurwanger.com/tuning-out/): Have you ever been subjected to terrible music playing over a business sound system?  If so, you know that you are unable to control the music. How can you tune out the distraction? You can always walk out.  But what if there is something you need to accomplish and you do not want to leave until the task is finished? The thousands of random thoughts that pass through your mind each day are similar to that sound system.  You have no control over what comes in. You can try to replace the undesirable thoughts with something more appealing, or try to...
- [Do You Pay Too Much Attention to Criticism?](https://lindathurwanger.com/do-you-pay-too-much-attention-to-criticism/): Rachel Farnsworth One day last week, I stumbled upon a video made by Rachel Farnsworth. I was not familiar with who Rachel was, but I was very inspired by her spunk, authenticity, insight and her vulnerability. Rachel hosted her own cooking show.  One day, she received a derogatory comment from a viewer, regarding her gray hair.  Instead of withdrawing and feeling victimized, Rachel took matters into her own hands in a very public way. If you would like to view Rachel’s video, you will find it here:  https://youtu.be/aFk9L3nhS0Q I was impressed with Rachel’s forthright approach to the nasty comment. Some of...
- [Ten Attributes of a Great Leader](https://lindathurwanger.com/ten-attributes-of-a-great-leader/): What are the ten attributes of a good leader? Too often people in leadership roles are arrogant, self-centered, uncaring, narrow-minded and distant.  True, they may be able to get tasks accomplished by their reluctant employees or have total control at home with their overbearing attitude. This may lead them to think that their management style is effective. Nothing could be further from the truth. How much more would they accomplish with employees who enjoyed working for them? What if their children felt so loved and connected, they rarely needed to be disciplined? Here is my short list of the attributes that...
- [Are You Reacting or Creating?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-reacting-or-creating/): We use the same letters from the alphabet to spell these two dynamic words with distinctly different, nearly opposite meanings.  It’s a reminder of the choices we have when we are faced with challenging situations. Reacting Reacting:  Happens when we receive an upsetting phone call from a friend or family member, have frustrations at work, deadlines, worrisome health concerns or financial issues.  It is an involuntary or automatic response.  Something hits us the wrong way and we get angry or upset and want to take immediate action to stop the pain.  We push back against whoever or whatever is upsetting us....
- [Are You Clinging To A Dead-End Relationship?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-in-a-dead-end-relationship/): Sometimes giving up is the answer. To continue to stay in a dead-end relationship because you don’t want to give up, may not always the best option in romantic relationships.  When we wait with the mindset of love and patience, for someone to make a commitment to us, it is wise to keep our eyes and ears open, and pay attention to our innate wisdom. I would never advise anyone to rush into a relationship.  I have rushed into relationships enough times in my own life, to know the error of that way.  We each have our own inner sense of...
- [How to Overcome Holiday Overwhelm](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-to-overcome-holiday-overwhelm-at-home-or-office/): The Holidays can be a bit intense for some of us.  It’s not all joy, hugs and laughter for everyone. It can even be stressful for children who are wondering if they have been “good enough” this year, to make it on the “Nice List” and score a gift or two from Santa.  It’s not unusual, to feel overwhelmed before, during and after the holiday season. If you believe that you should only feel happy emotions during the holidays, you’re bound to be disappointed. Feeling Overwhelmed by the Holiday Season? Feeling overwhelmed by all there is to do, lack of money...
- [When is Enough, Enough?](https://lindathurwanger.com/when-is-enough-enough/): I wish there was an easy, multiple choice test a person could take to determine if it is time to leave a relationship, change jobs, close a business, walk away from an alcoholic spouse, etc.…  Unfortunately, no such test exists. And, even if it did, we would still question the results.  So, how can you tell if it’s time to move on? When you begin to notice that you are dissatisfied with your current situation, you will start to consider making a change.  When the circumstance you are in becomes more painful than the future you fear, you will think about...
- [How to Let Go of Past Hurts](https://lindathurwanger.com/letting-go-of-past-hurts/): One of the questions I am most frequently asked by my coaching clients, has to do with how to let go of past grievances and emotional injuries.  Intellectually, many people know that when we revisit old wounds over and over again, it keeps us stuck in old feelings of victimization, resentment, hurt and anger.  Still, we can’t seem to stop playing that painful tape over and over again in our minds.  I’m as guilty of this as the next person. An Apology is Not Necessary A big part of what makes letting go so difficult, is thinking that we must get...
- [Setting Boundaries with Difficult People](https://lindathurwanger.com/setting-boundaries-with-difficult-people/): Maybe the world has always been this way, but in recent years, there seems to be a wide-spread trend toward self-centeredness.  Not only obsession with what the self wants or needs, but a total lack of consideration for the wants or needs of fellow humans.  Often this occurs within our own families.  Whether life has always been this way or not, setting personal boundaries will help you keep your sanity and may improve your relationships. The word “boundaries” is often misinterpreted.  If you think of a personal boundary as an impenetrable wall, then you might believe that having a boundary means...
- [My Go-to Prayer](https://lindathurwanger.com/the-serenity-prayer-my-go-to-prayer/): When life is challenging, my go-to prayer is the short version of “The Serenity Prayer”.   That simple prayer contains great wisdom, and I use it to help ground myself, when I am in the midst of chaos. Here is the prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Although it’s a commonly known prayer, my guess is few people understand the meaning of the prayer, or take the time to apply it to everyday life situations. (In this article, I refer...
- [Obstacles In Your Life Are Not As Real As They Appear](https://lindathurwanger.com/obstacles-in-your-mind-are-not-as-real-as-they-appear/): You know that message that is written on the side-view mirror of your car?  The one that says “objects in mirror appear closer than they are”.  Like the objects in the mirror, the obstacles in your life, may sometimes appear larger and more real than they are. Which means they can often stand in the way of you getting what you want out of life. We say we want a better relationship with our partner or we want a better job or we want to get more clients, but our actions betray our true commitments.  We know what we could do to...
- [What Are You Struggling With?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-are-you-struggling-with/): What are you struggling with today?   Are you feeling unappreciated?  Do you hate your job? Are you upset with your children or another family member?  Are you surrounded by people you have nothing in common with?   Do you want to change careers, but you think you are stuck?  Are you unhappy with your body? Would you believe me if I told you that our thoughts cause us to struggle with all those issues and many others? The Connection Between Thoughts and Feelings Most people never see the connection between the thoughts they are thinking and the way they are feeling.  The...
- [We Have Very Little Control Over Life](https://lindathurwanger.com/we-have-very-little-control-over-life/): Life is a constant unfolding of events, circumstances and relationships.  I’m sure you’ve heard it said that the only guarantee in life is that there are no guarantees.  You may have also noticed, that even when you do everything you can to protect yourself from uncomfortable experiences (loss of job, relationship crash, grief, etc.), life just happens.  In reality, we have very little control over what goes on around us. But, don’t despair…  Our power lies in the control we have over one very important aspect of life’s challenges.  We can control the stories we tell ourselves about the things that...
- [You Are Not Belle, and He is Not an Enchanted Prince ](https://lindathurwanger.com/youre-not-belle-and-hes-not-an-enchanted-prince/): In the fairy tale, Beauty and The Beast, Belle (Beauty) uses patience, love and kindness to break an evil spell and transform The Beast back to a handsome, gentle prince. When a woman stays in a relationship with a man who acts like a beast towards her, I wonder if there is a bit of “fairy tale thinking” going on in her head.  The fairy tale thoughts she might have, sound something like this… I’ll be nicer to him and show him more attention and affection, then he’ll stop being so irritable and distant. It’s my fault he is ill-tempered.  I like to talk...
- [Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys.](https://lindathurwanger.com/inner-peace-in-the-midst-of-chaos/): Recently, I sent the old polish proverb, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” in a text message, to a close friend who was struggling to maintain her inner peace in the midst of chaos.  I often recite this saying to myself as a simple reminder, that I don’t have to let the irrational behavior of others, pull me in or upset my peace of mind. How Do You Respond to Drama? I know how easy it can be to get pulled in to other people’s drama.  Especially, if it is our spouse or someone equally important to us.  Most of us have unconscious,...
- [Life is a Gift](https://lindathurwanger.com/life-is-a-gift/): On September 15, 1985, my family gathered to celebrate my dad’s upcoming 59th birthday.  It was a Sunday afternoon and it was the last time I saw my parents and my sister Marjorie, alive.  I remember that when I left to go home, my dad hugged me for an extra long time that day.  Two days later, they were all gone and I understood the reason for that special hug.  Life is a gift and it was suddenly taken away.  My mom was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when I was around 10 years old.  My sister Marjorie at 25 years old,...
- [Should I Tell My Spouse I Am Thinking About Divorce?](https://lindathurwanger.com/should-i-tell-my-spouse-i-am-thinking-about-divorce/): Whether or not you should let your spouse know you are thinking about divorce, depends on your individual situation and the results you expect from that confession.   You might want to ask yourself a few of these questions when trying to decide whether or not to tell your spouse your innermost thoughts about your marriage.  What have you done up until now?  Have you been up front and honest with your spouse about your unhappiness?  Have you had discussions where you felt heard and understood regarding the important issues?  Did your spouse feel heard and understood?  Have you given him...
- [Please Don't Feed The Dragon](https://lindathurwanger.com/please-dont-feed-the-dragon/): Is there a dragon in your life?  I’m talking about the “fire-breathing” person, whose irrational behavior makes you feel as if you have to constantly monitor your words and actions to ward off their angry outbursts?  Maybe you tell yourself it’s not a big deal because you can do whatever you have to do to keep the peace… Change your plans, disappoint others who are less volatile, push your own desires aside… anything it takes… to keep the peace with the dragon.   If you’re giving in to the demands of a dragon, then you are feeding the dragon.   Just as...
- [Are You Ignoring An Open Window?](https://lindathurwanger.com/trying-harder-is-not-always-the-answer/): Or, trying harder is not always the answer to challenges.   Trying harder is not always the answer.  Have you ever watched a flying insect, trapped inside your car, as it tried to escape through the windshield or the rear window?   Maybe you  rolled the side windows down, so all the bug had to do was move over a few inches and easily fly to freedom through the open window.  Instead, its wings buzzed frantically as it crashed into the glass over and over again.  No matter how hard it tried to fly through the closed glass, it was impossible for it to succeed.  If the insect never finds that...
- [When Will Enough be Enough?](https://lindathurwanger.com/when-will-enough-be-enough/): Are you unhappy in your marriage?  Are you waiting for your spouse to change from being uncaring, inattentive, undemonstrative and angry into someone who is attentive, loving, affectionate and peaceful?  How long have you been waiting for that to happen?  When was the last time you truly felt loved and appreciated by your spouse?  When was the last time you felt love and appreciation toward him or her?  If you could transport yourself into the future, 1 year, 3 years, 10 years or further, how do you imagine your life will be, if the dynamics with your spouse stay as they...
- [Boundary Crashers and Bullies](https://lindathurwanger.com/boundary-crashers-and-bullies/): There are many different levels and types of abuse.  Any relationship, personal or otherwise is susceptible to it.  Sometimes, abuse is easily recognized, other times, it is more subtle.  Abuse can be intentional, or it can be unintentional.  Sometimes abusive behavior is the only way the abuser knows how to deal with their fear, anger or frustration.  You might be surprised to learn that when someone habitually crosses your personal boundaries, it is a form of abuse and shows a lack of respect for you. Whatever form it takes, abusive or bullying behavior toward another, is never okay.  Yet, we often tolerate this...
- [Love is not the Promise of Eternal Passion](https://lindathurwanger.com/love-is-not-the-promise-of-eternal-passion/): The quote in the image above is from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernières.  What is left when passion cools?  If it is really love, we are left with a deep connection to our partner.  One we can never imagine being without.  loWhen we enter into marriage or a long-term relationship, most of us intend to develop those deep roots that the author describes.  It is why this quote is often used in wedding ceremonies. When the flame of passion begins to diminish, it is sometimes difficult to make the transition from romantic love to a deeper more lasting version...
- [To Divorce Or Not To Divorce... Either Way, It Takes Courage.](https://lindathurwanger.com/to-divorce-or-not-to-divorce-either-way-it-takes-courage/): Between our own inner thoughts and the mixed messages we receive from our family, religious organizations and society, it is not surprising that we can feel confused about what to do when it comes to whether or not we should stay or leave a marriage. In my experience as a Coach, it seems the women who struggle the most with whether to stay or go are the wives who are in marriages where there is no clear cut, society-supported reason to leave. These are the wives who feel under-appreciated, unloved and disillusioned.  Some have described themselves as feeling as if they...
- [If He Really Loved Me...](https://lindathurwanger.com/if-he-really-loved-me/): “If he really loved me, he would _______________.”  This is what we say when we are caught up in our thinking. Yes, we are in pain and yes, we are feeling sad, angry, rejected, unimportant, etc…  In our mind, it’s clear that our partner’s behavior is the cause of our discomfort.  But,  this is faulty thinking because we put ourselves in a powerless position when we believe someone else must change before our discomfort will go away. When you are convinced that someone else must change their behavior in order for you to feel happy, secure, loved, or important, you put your well-being...
- [Painful Memories Belong In The Past](https://lindathurwanger.com/painful-memories-belong-in-the-past/): A few days ago, I received a letter from an attorney’s office.  The letter informed me that I owed $3,000 to a Property Owner’s Association for assessment fees on a small tract of land in North Georgia.  I have not owned that property since the early 1980’s.  For some reason, the warranty deed on file was never changed and my name was still on the deed.  To settle the matter, I was asked to produce legal documents to support my claim that the property does not belong to me.  I panicked a bit, worried that I would not be able to...
- [Until Death Do Us Part](https://lindathurwanger.com/until-death-do-us-part/): When I married my first husband, I promised to love, honor and respect him.  I promised to stay with him until we were parted by death.  Unfortunately, I did not do my due diligence and really get to know the man I was making all these promises to.  We dated for less than 4 months before we got married.  Not only did I not really know him, I did not truly know myself either. It didn’t take long for reality to set in.  Our marriage was tumultuous and painful.  He was physically and verbally abusive. I was scared and confused.  Early...
- [Hey! What about MY feelings?](https://lindathurwanger.com/hey-what-about-my-feelings/): This morning as I listened to a couple of  women who called into a local radio station, I felt compelled to write about what I heard.  I’ve changed the names to protect their identities. Jessica, called the station to complain that her best friend, Kim, kept sending pictures and text messages of her child’s growth milestones to Jessica.  This is upsetting Jessica, because she has been trying to get pregnant, but has not been successful.  Jessica thinks these messages from Kim are insensitive and uncaring. A second caller, Amber, called the radio station to explain that she too has a similar experience to...
- [Life Is Not Black & White](https://lindathurwanger.com/do-you-see-life-in-black-white/):   Do you see life in black and white? Or, have you noticed that our world is full of brilliant color?   I think it’s a great metaphor for relationships and life itself.  Very few life experiences are black and white.  In fact, most aspects of life are a bit messy and not within our control.  One could even call those situations “colorful”.   But, that doesn’t stop most of us from trying to make every life experience fit in a neat little box of right or wrong, positive or negative, possible or impossible.  It’s a control thing, an attempt to make ourselves...
- [What Kind of Coffee Are You?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-kind-of-coffee-are-you/): Have you heard the story about the egg, a carrot and coffee beans? Basically, the story points out that when immersed in boiling water, an egg becomes hardened on the inside, a carrot becomes soft and mushy, but coffee actually changes the boiling water into something delicious. The story is designed to make us think about how we react when we find ourselves in difficult situations. Although it is an interesting analogy,  I believe that we are ALL like coffee.  Just like coffee beans added to hot water, we can change the water. When faced with a challenging circumstance (boiling water),...
- [Are You Really A Loving Person?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-really-a-loving-person/): Do you think of yourself as a kind and loving person?  Are you, really? If we squeeze an orange, the only thing that comes out of the orange, is orange juice.  There is no chance that we will get grape juice or anything else from the orange.  When someone “squeezes” you, what comes out?   When the waiter is too slow or brings the wrong order, how do you react?  When you’re stuck in traffic and late for an appointment, what do you instinctively do? Many of us think of ourselves as being kind and loving people and most of the time...
- [Be Willing to Forgive](https://lindathurwanger.com/be-willing-to-forgive/): Forgiveness begins when we are willing to forgive.  We must want to forgive the person who harmed us. The desire to forgive creates a space where forgiveness is possible.  God exists within each of us. That is clearly evident in some people and not so evident in others.  Sometimes, the aspect of God within a person is so covered up with that person’s ego, it is difficult to see.  To see the Divine in another person, we have to view them through the eyes of Love. From time to time, we all say and do things that are not in alignment...
- [It Is Just Uncomfortable.](https://lindathurwanger.com/it-is-just-uncomfortable/):   Life begins with discomfort.  As a 9 month old fetus, given the choice, to stay in the womb or go through the discomfort of passing through the birth canal, some of us would have opted to stay in the comfort of our mother’s womb.  There are some mothers,  when coping with obstinate teenagers, who might have opted for their child to stay in the womb too. From the  infant’s viewpoint, being unceremoniously introduced to the world with it’s loud noises and bright lights, must certainly be a traumatic experience.   For the mom giving birth, the process is more often...
- [The Seahawks' Super Bowl Victory 2014](https://lindathurwanger.com/seahawks-super-bowl-victory/):   I’m not going to pretend to know much about football.  However, I feel pretty confident that  Sunday night’s Super Bowl upset of the Denver Broncos by the Seattle Seahawks was not something most fans or the Broncos saw coming. The Seahawks arrived on the field with an unbelievable amount of energy.   Apparently, someone forgot to explain to them that they were not supposed to win.  The initial plays made by the Seahawks, seemed to catch the  Broncos off guard and left the Denver team looking a bit stunned.  The Seattle team obviously entered that arena determined to play full-out....
- [What Can We Learn From Snow Jam 2014?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-can-we-learn-from-snow-jam-2014/): On Tuesday this week, over two-thirds of Georgia,  experienced one of the worst traffic tie-ups in history.  The cause?  A mere two to four  inches of powdery snow. If you don’t live in the deep south, you probably won’t understand how this could happen.  The fact is  our State is simply not equipped to handle this type of weather.    Most of the cities and counties have a few sand/salt trucks and a few plow attachments to help clear roadways.  Unfortunately, the small amount of equipment we have is not enough to take care of the main roads,  much less the...
- [Victim or Self-Reliant Individual?](https://lindathurwanger.com/victim-or-self-reliant-individual/): Everyone has a tendency to feel sorry for herself from time to time.  Sometimes, we think it would be so much easier if someone would just step in and take care of us.  Then, we wouldn’t have to work so hard at living.  We could sit back, relax and enjoy life.  No worries. In reality, we each have a built-in desire to be independent, an innate desire to “do it ourselves”.  It is evident at a very young age.  As infants, we relied on our parents to meet our basic needs.  We were unable to care for ourselves and it was...
- [Loneliness and Work-Life Balance](https://lindathurwanger.com/loneliness-and-work-life-balance/): I am always on the lookout for articles on work-life balance, so when I saw the title of this article, I decided to check it out. “Love/Hate: Star Robert Sheehan on his struggles with his work/life balance” However, when I read the article, written from an interview with Sheehan, it was less about work-life balance and more about how difficult and painful it was for him to be away from his girlfriend for long periods of time.  So painful in fact, that he has decided to ban himself from getting into another relationship… at least for now. We all experience bouts...
- [Alone on Thanksgiving?](https://lindathurwanger.com/alone-on-thanksgiving/): If you are going to be alone on Thanksgiving and you are feeling sad and unloved, the best way to chase the feelings of loneliness and sadness away is to reach out and help someone else. Self-pity is an emotional downward journey that will never lead to happier feelings.  Look around you, there is bound to be someone whose life situation is worse than your own.  There are people less fortunate than you who would welcome your attention and your companionship.  What could you do to bring a little light to their lives? You could invite someone to dinner at your...
- [Counterfeit Work-Life Balance](https://lindathurwanger.com/counterfeit-work-life-balance/):   I just read an article on LinkedIn  about using tech tools to achieve work-life balance.  The author of the article gave an example.  He said one of the ways a parent could achieve work-life balance would be to attend their child’s little league game and use technology to conduct business at the same time.  They could make and receive calls, check email, use the internet, access documents and files, manage customer databases, etc… Don’t be fooled by work-life balance imposters. Now, while I agree that technology does have its’ advantages, being “plugged in” all the time via technology is definitely...
- [Butterfly Wings and Wisdom](https://lindathurwanger.com/butterfly-wings-and-wisdom/): Over the weekend, my husband and I noticed a large, beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower.  We both remarked on how graceful and colorful the butterfly was.  Of course, I had to snap a photo with my cell phone. It wasn’t until I was admiring the photograph for the 7th or 8th time, that I realized the butterfly was missing part of her left wing.   I still think that butterfly is beautiful.  I could have used Photoshop to add back the part of her wing that is missing, but that damaged wing makes her even more interesting to me. How...
- [Does Success Preclude Living A Balanced Life?](https://lindathurwanger.com/does-success-preclude-living-a-balanced-life/): I think it depends on how you define success as well as what a balanced life means to you.    If you define success in terms of money and fame and if  you believe those things can only be achieved when you sacrifice your relationships, health and inner well-being, you might believe that living a balanced life is simply nonsense. If you believe living a balanced life means you must split your time equally between work, relationships, spirituality and your health, you may think that you cannot be successful and have a balanced life style. As I read the attached article...
- [Stop Pushing My Buttons!](https://lindathurwanger.com/stop-pushing-my-buttons/): If you are like most of us, there are people and situations in your life that get under your skin.  What do you do when others push your emotional buttons? Do you let your anger take over and lose control of your words and actions? Do you stuff your feelings by acting as if everything is okay, while quietly resenting the other person? Do you say you’ll do something one way and then sneak around behind the other person’s back to do things the way you want to? Do you resort to giving the silent treatment when you are upset with...
- [Hire a Team to Boost Your Profit](https://lindathurwanger.com/hire-a-team-to-boost-your-profit/): I have noticed that many people are hesitant to ask for help when they need it.  Maybe they are concerned about appearing weak or incompetent.  Or maybe they don’t fully understand the value of an outside perspective when dealing with challenges or an extra pair of hands to help with tasks.  If we do not see the value in something, we may be focused too tightly on the monetary expense. Nowhere is this more obvious than it is with the owners of small businesses.  Many are reluctant to hire out tasks because they prefer to do everything themselves.  It can be...
- [Giving Advice to Your Children](https://lindathurwanger.com/giving-advice-to-your-children/): It doesn’t matter if your children are 5 years of age or 45 years of age, they will only occasionally take your advice.   However, they are very likely to pay close attention to how you show up in the world. So how are you showing up in life?  Are you playing full-out or, do you spend most of your time bemoaning your past and wallowing in regret and self-pity?  Do you show your children that you are an independent, resourceful, self-motivated individual or are you waiting for someone to rescue you? If you behave as if you are an unhappy, helpless...
- [Are You Sabotaging Yourself?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-sabotaging-yourself/): Divorce is NOT the end of your story.   The marriage may be over, but your life is far from over.  Divorce is a painful experience, but it can also be an effective teacher and the pathway to an inspired life. Don’t sabotage yourself with thinking that makes your feel unworthy or shameful or causes you to behave in ways you will regret later.  Do you recognize yourself or your ex in any of the behaviors below?  I can help you stop behaving in ways that are destructive to your own well-being.  Or, if you are on the receiving end of...
- [Relationships](https://lindathurwanger.com/relationships/): The RELATIONSHIP Piece of the Puzzle Every aspect of life is tied to relationships.  We have relationships with co-workers, bosses, friends, immediate family, extended family, store clerks, restaurant workers, the postal carrier and the list goes on and on.  Yet, this is one of the areas that gets neglected when we are growing our business.
- [Sleep is Important by Mary Francis](https://lindathurwanger.com/sleep-is-important-by-mary-francis/): Guest Blogger:  Mary Francis – Author and Speaker – Founder of  The Sisterhood of Widows Today, I am sharing an article from my friend, author Mary Francis.  Mary has written a wonderful book,  The Sisterhood of Widows.   After twenty-seven years of marriage, at the age of 50, Mary became a widow.    I hope that Mary’s words will bring comfort and encouragement to those of you who have experienced the loss of your spouse.   Please visit Mary’s website https://sisterhoodofwidows.com/about-mary/ to read Mary’s story and take advantage of some of the great resources she offers. “After suddenly becoming a widow I started...
- [You Can Be Happy... No Matter What](https://lindathurwanger.com/you-can-be-happy-no-matter-what/): If you are waiting on someone else to start or stop doing something in order for you to feel better, happy, worthy, more peaceful or loved, you are putting yourself in the role of the victim and giving your power away. Many of the people I coach, come to me in a state of anxiety or frustration.  Usually, someone or some situation is at the root of their discomfort.  Or, so it seems. ..   Some of the most common laments are:  “If she would stop making those comments, I would feel better when I’m around her.   Or, “If he would show...
- [How To Find Lasting Love](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-to-find-lasting-love/): 30 years ago, I believed that finding a romantic partner was hard work. I thought I had to change how I looked, how I behaved and what I liked or disliked in order to attract a mate and have a successful romantic relationship. I didn’t think I was enough, so I became a master at chameleon-like behavior and could morph into whoever I needed to be depending on who I was with. I kept my opinions to myself. I didn’t rock the boat and went along with whatever my significant other wanted to do. This worked for awhile. I did find...
- [Who is Your Bengal Tiger?](https://lindathurwanger.com/who-is-your-bengal-tiger/): Over the weekend, my husband and I saw the movie, Life of Pi. A fantasy adventure of a young boy named Pi, from Pondicherry, India who survives a shipwreck. He spends 227 days on a small lifeboat with a Bengal tiger named Richard Parker. To stay alive, not only must Pi outsmart and outmaneuver the hungry, angry tiger, but also provide food, water and shelter for himself and his hostile traveling companion. As the story progresses, Pi credits the tiger with his survival. Had the tiger not been there, forcing him to be alert and resourceful, Pi believes he would have perished....
- [New Year - New Relationship?](https://lindathurwanger.com/new-year-new-relationship/): Before you jump to conclusions about the title of this article, consider that a new relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that you will leave your existing relationship behind. You could develop a new relationship with your current partner or you could create a new relationship with yourself. On the other hand, if you are single, you may have a desire to find a new partner in 2013. No matter what meaning you assign to creating a new relationship in the New Year, the place to start is with yourself and your story. People, who carry their story around with them and present...
- [Divorce, Children, Families and the Holidays](https://lindathurwanger.com/divorce-children-families-and-the-holidays/): When spouses with children divorce, everyone is impacted. Grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends will all feel the aftermath of the divorce.  Holidays can be stress-filled, uncomfortable and challenging.  Long standing family holiday traditions inevitably change when a divorce happens.  Your ex-in-law’s support and loyalty will most likely go to your ex-spouse, their son or daughter.  Although your ex in-laws may still have deep feelings for you, they are in a very uncomfortable position.  Your parents and siblings will tend to be supportive and loyal to you and they will likely experience the same discomfort when it comes to your...
- [Be Perfectly Imperfect](https://lindathurwanger.com/be-perfectly-imperfect/): Between Halloween and New Years Day we are bombarded daily by images of holiday settings that include perfectly dressed, smiling people gathered around an elegantly decorated Christmas tree happily sharing a meal, exchanging gifts or singing Christmas carols.  Although I am not as familiar with all the various holiday traditions observed around the world as I am with Christmas, my guess is there are similar, unspoken pressures to be perfect.   One way to reduce holiday stress is to stop expecting perfection from ourselves and everyone else. Unrealistic Expectations Even though we know intellectually, that the images found in the media of families are...
- [The Sea by Michel Quoist](https://lindathurwanger.com/the-sea-by-michel-quoist/): Michel Quoist was a Priest and author. He was born in 1921 and died in 1997. This is one of his many beautiful prayers.   I hope it touches you as it has touched me. The Sea Lord , I saw the sea attacking the rocks , somber and raging . From afar the waves gained momentum . High and proud , they leapt , jostling one another to be the first to strike . When the white foam drew back , leaving the rock clear , they gathered themselves to rush forward again . The other day I saw the sea...
- [Are You Indulging in an Anger Power Pout?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-indulging-in-an-anger-power-pout/): Recently, I listened to a podcast of Caroline Myss’ internet radio show on www.Hayhouseradio.com .  A woman called in to say that she had been injured in an automobile accident several years ago from which she had never fully recovered.  She wanted Caroline to help her determine why she wasn’t healing. After listening to the woman’s story for a few moments, Caroline asked the caller to explain why she was still feeling like a victim with regard to the accident.  The woman said that she had worked very hard to make it through graduate school and that it was all taken away from...
- [Don't Let Self-Sabotage Knock You Out!](https://lindathurwanger.com/dont-let-self-sabotage-knock-you-out/): Does self-sabotage keep you from achieving your goals
- [Toddlers Texting](https://lindathurwanger.com/toddlers-texting/): “Don’t believe everything you think.”  I don’t know where this quote originated because it is attributed to several different writers and speakers.   I DO know that it helps bring me back from the edge, when “crazy making” thoughts come into my head.   The thoughts that float to the top of our mind at any given moment are not usually wisdom from the Universe or messages from God.  For the most part they are completely random and often don’t make any sense at all.  I compare it to receiving text messages from a toddler with a smart phone.  What you get is...
- [Are You Sacrificing Your SELF for Your Relationship?](https://lindathurwanger.com/are-you-sacrificing-your-self-for-your-relationship/): One-Sided Relationships Some of my past relationships have been very one-sided.  Looking back, I know it was because, in each one of those relationships, I chose very selfish, immature men to be in relationship with and then I made their happiness more important than my own. In one of those relationships, my partner made it very clear, sometimes through physical violence that certain discussions or requests or behaviors were not acceptable to him.  I kept my opinions and my thoughts to myself because voicing them was too scary.  I learned to “tiptoe” around him and his unpredictable moods in order to...
- [Is Your Goal Too Scary?  Break It Down!](https://lindathurwanger.com/is-your-goal-too-scary-break-it-down/): Imagine your GOAL as the peak of a very tall, very steep mountain.  You are standing at the bottom, looking up. Wow!  The top of that mountain is WAY up there!  You’re looking at it and getting more and more agitated, your heart is pounding and you can feel the blood racing through your veins. The voice in your head is telling you to “Turn back now!”  This is too much for you to take on!”  “You’re never going to make it to the top, save yourself the embarrassment and just quit now.”   Sound familiar? STOP DOING THAT!      STOP IT!    STOP IT!    STOP...
- [Support Is A Key To Successful Change](https://lindathurwanger.com/support-is-a-key-to-successful-change/): Think back 3 – 6 months ago.  What changes did you promise yourself you would make in your business, relationships, health, finances or spiritual life?  How far have you progressed? We know what we want to accomplish.  We know what to do to get there.  We have a plan and we plan to work it.  We start out with lots of zest, zing and zip, but end up flat, fizzled out and fried. Like the houseplant in this photo, our visions and goals need energy and attention to flourish and thrive.  I neglected this poor plant for too long.  It used...
- [Your Inner MP3](https://lindathurwanger.com/your-inner-mp3/): We are human.  Occasionally we make decisions, say things, do things, fail to do things or just plain old screw something up. When this happens, what do you do?  Do you give yourself a good “talking to”? I’ve done it sometimes and I’m guessing you have to.  That conversation may go something like this… Wow, that was dumb!  Why didn’t you think that through more carefully?  Are you really that stupid?   What is wrong with you?   You’re never going to reach that goal!  You’re not good enough! For whatever reason, many of us seem to think that beating ourselves up over...

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- [What Now Assessment](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-now-assessment/): The What Now? Assessment | Linda Thurwanger Linda Thurwanger A Free Assessment for Women in transition So… what now? If that question has been following you, after a divorce, an empty house, retirement, a career that no longer fits, or for no reason you can name, you are not lost. You are in a transition. This short, free assessment helps you name where you really are, and find your next move. Get the free “What Now?” Assessment A few quiet minutes. Enter your details and it lands in your inbox. No noise, no pressure. Just the guide and a few helpful...
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- [What Now?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-now/): What Now? | Linda Thurwanger Linda Thurwanger Next Step Conversation What Now? You’ve spent decades being who everyone needed you to be.Now you’re wondering who you are. Retirement, divorce, an empty house, a career that no longer fits, or simply a quiet voice asking “what now?” The hardest part of a transition is not the change itself. It is not knowing what to do next. Let’s find your next move, together. Book Your Next Step Conversation Take the Free “What Now?” Assessment For any woman navigating a transition in work or life. When Something Feels Off So… what now? You are...
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- [Thank You!](https://lindathurwanger.com/thank-you-2/): Thank You! Thank you for your interest in receiving a complimentary 20 – 30 minute clarity conversation with Linda. Linda will reach out to you soon with a link to her calendar. When you receive the link, you will be able to login to schedule an appointment time that works with your schedule. Linda Thurwanger Coaching
- [When Life Looks Fine, But Something Feels Off](https://lindathurwanger.com/when-life-looks-fine-but-something-feels-off/): When Life Looks Fine, But Something Is Off As a professional woman, you may be leading, performing and meeting expectations while quietly feeling unsettled. Your role may be shifting. Your influence may feel less secure. Or you may be navigating divorce, relationship change, midlife identity shifts while maintaining professional composure. Nothing is officially “wrong”, and yet, something feels different. This is often the beginning of transition. You May Be Experiencing: Transitions destabilize identity before they destabilize performance. When identity feels uncertain, confidence wobbles. When confidence wobbles, decisions feel urgent. The instinct is to make change quickly. But the wiser move is...
- [How Can Working With A Divorce Coach Benefit Me?](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-can-working-with-a-divorce-coach-benefit-me/): How Can Working With Linda Benefit Me? Here are just a few of the areas where coaching is helpful when you are going through or recovering from divorce: What Does Working With Linda Look Like? A One Month Coaching Package Includes: Other coaching packages are available for longer periods of time. What is required of you during Coaching: For more information, click here to contact Linda There are several Blog articles on this site, here are a few: The Divorce Was Not My Fault Divorce is NOT the End of Your Story Should I Tell My Spouse I Am Thinking About...
- [Linda Thurwanger - BIO](https://lindathurwanger.com/linda-thurwanger-bio/): Personal & Executive Life Coach Linda Thurwanger has dedicated her life to the study of personal development and empowerment. She studied psychology at Kennesaw State University and received her ICF Coaching Certification in 2010. Since earning her coaching certification in 2010, Linda has dedicated herself to continuous growth, studying with some of the best coaches in the world to refine her skills and deepen her impact. With a foundation in psychology from Kennesaw State University, she brings a unique blend of academic insight and world-class coaching expertise to empower her clients to thrive. Her education coupled with her life and business experience have...
- [You Can Live Happily Even After Divorce](https://lindathurwanger.com/divorce-101/you-can-live-happily-even-after-divorce/): Are you reacting to your breakup or using this challenging time in your life to create the life you want for yourself? Reacting sucks the life out of us, draining our energy and making it difficult for us to think positively or creatively. I have gone through the divorce process more than once. I know firsthand, how upsetting and life altering it is emotionally, financially and mentally. I’m not suggesting that you pretend everything is okay and put on a happy face. Allow yourself time to feel the full impact of the breakup and all the emotions that go along with...
- [Holiday Stress Relief](https://lindathurwanger.com/holiday-stress-relief/): Whether your anxiety or stress is related to the holiday season or something else (divorce, political issues, loss of a loved one, financial worries…) I am here to support you. Complete the form below to receive a free list of 10 Ways to Reduce Holiday Stress. (Limited Time Offer)
- [Divorce or Separation Coaching with Linda](https://lindathurwanger.com/reinvent-yourself-and-thrive-post-divorce/): Divorce and life-after-divorce can be challenging. Ending a long-term relationship, is rarely easy. After the dust settles, you are left with a blank canvas.  A canvas that gives you the opportunity to reinvent yourself and design a life that you love! In the midst of the turmoil of divorce or separation, we can lose sight of our strength and wisdom and fail to see the possibilities that are all around us.  Linda provides support through coaching that shines a light on what is possible for you before, during and after divorce.  Do you need to re-enter the job market?  Or learn...
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- [Divorce 101](https://lindathurwanger.com/divorce-101/): Divorce 101 Because You Don’t Know  What You Don’t Know About Divorce  That is why I wrote Divorce 101   Are you thinking about getting a divorce?    Ready to take the first steps toward divorce?  Or has your spouse advised you that he or she wants a divorce? You might think the only thing you need to do, is hire an attorney… but there is so much more you may need to consider or do. When I am asked what is the most important advice I give to those contemplating divorce,                    this is...
- [Who I Coach](https://lindathurwanger.com/who-i-coach/): Who I Coach I work with capable women who have reached a point where something has changed — or needs to. They may be successful, responsible and accustomed to figuring things out. They may be the person everyone else turns to. But now they are the ones asking: What do I want? What still fits? What needs to change? And what comes next? Sometimes the transition is obvious. A career changes. A marriage ends. The children leave home. A business evolves. Retirement approaches. A loss changes everything. Other times, nothing dramatic has happened. Life may look perfectly fine from the outside....
- [Resources](https://lindathurwanger.com/resources/): Books, Gifts and More… Under the Resources Tab you will find ebooks by Linda as well as free articles and recommended books and videos.  Check our the Shop page for inspirational or funny gift ideas.
- [Books by Linda Thurwanger](https://lindathurwanger.com/videos/books-by-linda-thurwanger/): Books available in paperback on Amazon.com Click the book image to order from Amazon.com. For bulk orders, contact Linda. Divorce is a life-changing event, even if you were the one who initiated the divorce. This book was written with women in mind, but men may find it helpful as well. When our life gets turned upside down, it is not uncommon to lose our balance and behave in ways that sabotage our healing, growth and happiness. This book addresses twelve of the self-sabotaging behaviors that I witnessed in myself and others. I hope it will help the reader to recognize unhealthy...
- [How Can A Coach Help Me?](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-coaching-offers/): How Can A Coach Help Me? We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. Albert Einstein That is a great Einstein quote and it points to what many of us do. We keep turning a problem over and over in our head using exactly the same thinking we used to create the problem. It’s insanity! But that’s what we do. As a Coach, I help my clients to get off the Tilt-A-Whirl carnival ride in their heads, so they can see their other options. I do this by listening to what my clients say...
- [Freebies for You](https://lindathurwanger.com/coaching-freebies-for-you/): My dream is to help others see the untapped possibilities within themselves. On this page, you will find some coaching freebies designed to help you become the best version of yourself. Free Blog Articles Free articles on my Blog. If an article speaks to you, or you think it would be helpful to someone you know, please share it with them or invite them to visit my website. Blog Link: https://lindathurwanger.com/coach-linda-thurwanger-blog/ Free Inspirational Daily Quote Free Daily Inspirational Quote delivered to your email box: http://lindathurwanger.com/morning-inspiration/ Free Quotes set in Art Free Art Quotes: https://lindathurwanger.com/inspirational-quotes-and-art/ Free Coaching Call: Occasionally, I offer a...
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- [Let's Talk!](https://lindathurwanger.com/lets-talk/):   Coaching For Life Let’s be real and acknowledge that there is very little space between our personal life and work or school life.  When I talk about work/life balance, I am pointing toward whatever works for and serves you and has you feeling good about yourself. Most of us go through the motions of our day to day existence.  We never stop to observe ourselves to question if what we are doing today is taking us toward or away from the life, relationships and work that we really want.  Coaching is Transformative! Coaching is not psychiatry. Psychiatry is mostly about...
- [Who Needs Coaching?](https://lindathurwanger.com/who-needs-coaching/): Who Needs Coaching? The short answer is… No one and Everyone. Many people have benefited from working with a coach.  As a Coach, my goal is to help you to discover your full potential and talents so you can create a happier and more fulfilling life for yourself. Take a little time to explore this site.  Visit my Blog page and skim through the quotes on the Quotes page.  If you take away one idea that makes even a small difference in your life, then I have accomplished what I set out to do on those pages. Free Articles Visit my...
- [You Are the Real Deal](https://lindathurwanger.com/you-are-the-real-deal/): You Are The Real Deal! Do you sometimes feel as if no one ever really sees the real you?  Do you secretly dream of being an artist or writer?  Would you love to own your own business, but you don’t know where to start?  Do you feel trapped by your current job or circumstances, so you put your dreams on an indefinite hold? Take a look at the photo at the top of this article.  The woman in the photo seems to be relaxed, happy and confident.  She’s outside, walking, chatting on the phone and enjoying a delicious gourmet coffee.  This...
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- [Is Someone Pushing Your Buttons?](https://lindathurwanger.com/is-someone-pushing-your-buttons/): Relationships Can Be Difficult, But They Don’t Have To Be… Do you have frequent arguments with your spouse/partner? Have you gone through a divorce, but still have to deal with your ex because you have children? Are you ready to get back in the dating world after divorce or being widowed? Are relationships with co-workers or customers strained? Are you feeling stuck in a job where you no longer feel inspired or valued? I Guide My Clients I can honestly say, that each one of the above scenarios has happened to me at some time in the past. I not only...
- [Work with Me](https://lindathurwanger.com/work-with-me/): Coaching closes the gap between the way you feel and live your life today and how you would rather feel and live.  I work with intelligent, capable people who want to create more success, joy and love in their lives.  Working with a Coach is one of the fastest ways to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Why Hire A Coach? Do you want to… Get a promotion at workHandle problems at work or home with more ease and graceGet more organized at work or homeHave more confidenceStart your own businessGrow your businessBe more...
- [Contact](https://lindathurwanger.com/contact-coach-linda-thurwanger/): Contact Coach Linda Would you like to schedule a complimentary call with me? Complete the form and I will respond with a link to my calendar.  There, you can choose a date and time that will work with your schedule. Personal or professional shifts can convince us that we need to act quickly. That is rarely the case. Let’s talk about where you are now, what is happening around you, and what you want. Clarity comes first, then action.
- [Blog](https://lindathurwanger.com/coach-linda-thurwanger-blog/): Coach Linda’s Blog Welcome to my Blog! I hope you will take some time to explore the many articles I have written over the past few years.  In these articles I share my inner most thoughts and the lessons I have learned.   If you find an article that inspires you, speaks to you or that you think it would benefit someone else, please share it.   As always, I am here to help.   Contact me here:  Contact Linda
- [Home](https://lindathurwanger.com/): Changing the Lens of Leaders A leader who is not living up to his or her potential or a team that is not working well together may only need to change the lens through which they view themselves and/or the company. When dealing with challenges, leaders and teams often benefit by viewing the problem through a different lens. The slightest shift in perspective can bring about big results. I enjoy helping my clients make that shift. As an Executive Life Coach, I develop trusting relationships with my clients and go the extra mile to help them achieve their objectives in the...
- [Convert Challenges into Possibilities](https://lindathurwanger.com/who-i-coach/convert-challenges-into-possibilities/): Is there a gap between the life you live and the life you want to be living? Or, maybe your situation is a temporary set back or a detour on the road of life.  An illness (yourself or someone you love), loss of job, financial strain, loss of a loved one…  I think it is safe to say that in the course of a lifetime, most of us experience many such challenges.  No one gets through life without facing obstacles or challenges of some sort. I believe everyone needs help and support from time to time and the right support person is crucial....
- [Work & Life](https://lindathurwanger.com/work-life/): Are you too worried, overwhelmed or stuck, to do the things you really want to do? Do any of these statements describe you? Exhausted and stressed at the end of each workday. Desk/office looks like a hurricane passed through it. Know you should delegate more, but  just can’t seem to let go of certain tasks. Technology keeps you connected to work 24/7 You are out of shape or overweight because you don’t have time to eat right or exercise. Have not seen your doctor, dentist or optometrist in years. Would love to read, take a walk or just relax, but don’t  have...
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- [Daily Inspiration](https://lindathurwanger.com/morning-inspiration/): Daily Inspiration Your Morning Latte – A Sip of Inspiration A Daily Inspirational Quote Even the most independent, confident, self-motivated and optimistic people experience times of self-doubt.  Your Morning Latte was created to provide a “little sip of inspiration” to help you stay focused and moving toward your best life ever! It’s my gift to you. Complete the form below to subscribe to Your Morning Latte and be added to my newsletter list.  You can unsubscribe at any time. You’ll receive a FREE inspirational/motivational quote (like the one below) in your email box each morning. Enjoy! Linda Thurwanger www.lindathurwanger.com “Every great work, every...
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- [The Right Support Person](https://lindathurwanger.com/the-right-support-person-is-crucial/): The Right Support Person Is Crucial At one time or another, everyone experiences a bump or a pothole in the road of life.   I think it is safe to say that in the course of a lifetime, most of us experience many such challenges.  No one gets through life without facing obstacles or challenges of some sort. I believe everyone needs help and support from time to time and the right support person is crucial. Getting advice from family and friends, just isn’t enough and may actually make the situation worse.   Those closest to us, are often too close to the issue to be...
- [Reviews](https://lindathurwanger.com/what-clients-have-to-say/): Read What Clients Have to Say About Linda.  Reaching out to Linda was one of the best decisions I have made.  She was there for me when I desperately needed someone to make sense of all of the thoughts going through my head.  After every time I finished talking to her, it felt like a big weight was lifted off my chest.  She gets it!  I went back and forth so much.  Do I stay in an unhappy marriage or leave?  Linda never pushed me in one direction or the other and stressed that staying or leaving would be equally difficult.  I...
- [How Coaching Works](https://lindathurwanger.com/how-coaching-works/): What To Expect  As a Personal & Executive Life Coach, I help professional women and women leaders to uncover the innate wisdom, resilience and strength that lies inside each and every one of us. I help capable, intelligent and strong women to step off the mental merry-go-round to find clarity, steadiness and direction. Although women may look professional and polished on the outside, many professional women are coping with identity drift, leadership fatigue, health challenges, divorce, relationship challenges, quiet firing and trauma. Coaching is not the same as therapy. The coaching process does not involve delving into your past or diagnosing...

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