Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

Divorce is NOT the end of your story.


The marriage may be over, but your life is far from over.  Divorce is a painful experience, but it can also be an effective teacher and the pathway to an inspired life.

Don’t sabotage yourself with thinking that makes your feel unworthy or shameful or causes you to behave in ways you will regret later.  Do you recognize yourself or your ex in any of the behaviors below?  I can help you stop behaving in ways that are destructive to your own well-being.  Or, if you are on the receiving end of these behaviors, I can help you find ways to effectively cope with the upsetting behaviors of your ex.

Learn how to cope with those feelings and avoid these twelve self-sabotaging  behaviors:

  1.  Still feeling wounded, angry and victimized months/years after the divorce.

  2.  Using alcohol, drugs, shopping, eating, sex, etc… to numb yourself.

  3.  Deny the role you played in the breakdown of the marriage.

  4.  Focused on making your Ex pay for his or her “sins”.

  5.  Introspection seems useless and a waste of time.

  6.  Pride gets in the way of seeking help from a coach, therapist or counselor.

  7.  Reliving the past and unable to see what is great about the present.

  8.  Irresponsible financial behavior.

  9.  Your son or daughter is in the role of best friend and counselor.

  10. Your Ex moved back in with you because you feel sorry for him or her.

  11. You are afraid to meet new people or try new things, so you stay home alone.

  12. You are exhausted, but ignore your own emotional, physical and spiritual needs. 

Twelve Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself and Thrive Post Divorce  is available on as a guide to help you eliminate self-defeating behaviors so you can create a better life for yourself and your children.

I struggled for many years with feelings of insecurity and feelings of worthlessness prior to my first marriage.  My lack of love for myself, caused me to settle for relationships with men who were insecure, self-centered and abusive.  When I learned how to love myself despite my perceived short-comings, my life changed.  The way I perceived men changed.  I no longer attracted toxic men and unstable relationships.  In time, I was blessed with an authentic long-term relationship with a wonderful partner.

In this workbook, I share twelve of the most common mistakes women make post-divorce.  These faulty ways of dealing with pain and the ex, keep us stuck and prevent us from creating the life we want to have for ourselves.  Twelve Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself and Thrive Post Divorce, contains practical tips on how to reverse the ineffective ways you have been dealing with your divorce so you can lay a firm foundation for the rest of your life.

If you are in the process of divorce, this workbook can also help you as you transition out of the relationship. 

Click on this image and download the electronic version of this workbook today for only $9.99!      

(Formerly Twelve Ways to Thrive Post-Divorce)

Divorce is a major life-changing event. Are you stuck in feelings of sadness or loss? Are you angry and looking for revenge after your divorce? If you are ready to stop feeling crummy and start feeling better about youself and optimistic about life, this workbook can get you on the path to creating a new life.

In this workbook discover how to:

• Feel empowered instead of victimized

• Reclaim the parts of yourself you lost during the marriage.

• Let go of the past once and for all

• Stop surviving and start thriving

• Stop settling for less than the best in your relationships


Download this Kindle book and start improving your post-divorce life today!

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