Are You the Architect of Your Own Life?
What is an architect? According to Wikipedia an architect is a person trained in the planning, design and oversight of the construction of buildings. The word is derived from the Greek word arkhitekton (chief builder). Of course, if you saw the movie “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”, you know that all words are derived from Greek words.
In my younger adult years, I definitely was not the architect of my own life. I drifted where life took me and I made choices that I would not make today. Most of my decisions were based on what would bring me the most pleasure or be the least challenging. I did not create a blueprint to help me make choices that would ultimately lead me to a desired outcome because I did not have a goal in mind. Needless to say, I made a lot of mistakes. I used to regret those past mistakes and wish I could have a “do over”.
However, I have come to realize that it was through my “mistakes” that I learned my greatest lessons. Those lessons blessed me with knowledge that no classroom could have provided. Today, I know it is a waste of time to regret the very experiences that enriched my life in so many ways especially when there is absolutely nothing I can do about them now. Instead, I have learned to be grateful for those lessons and to appreciate the experiences.
One of those lessons was that having a blueprint to follow increases the likelihood of achieving the desired results with the least amount of discomfort and frustration. To live consciously is one of the most important requirements to becoming the architect of your life. To be the architect of your own life requires self-knowledge, love and compassion toward self and others; a vision of what you would like to achieve and a belief that what you desire can be achieved.
Even when you have all of these elements, the road to your desired goal will not be devoid of challenges and the occasional need to modify your original blueprint. On the other hand, if you have no blueprint at all, you are likely to end up in a situation you never wanted. This is true whether you are building a life, a career, a relationship, financial security, good health or whatever your goal may be. A blueprint, like a flashlight in the dark, will be your greatest asset.
Having an end result in mind creates the impetus that the mind, body and spirit need to move steadily toward that vision. I recommend that you enlist the help of a close friend by sharing your vision or goal and asking them to gently and supportively keep you accountable to take the steps you need to take to achieve success.
As a Coach, I help individuals implement the things they have learned so they can make real changes in their lives. Changes that lead to better relationships, business success, more peace of mind and better health.